It's always harder for the person on the other side.  But for the one wanting the seperation it's easier.  It's obviously for a reason but no matter what you say,  it's not a good enough reason.  Sometimes people just grow apart.  Especially when that one person is the only one you've been with since you were 17 years old.  Just because there's love doesn't mean there's true love that makes you happy.  These things can never go smoothly but there's got to be a way to get through it without feeling guilty but yet being able to stick with your decision.  I feel selfish for thinking of myself but then again I've been neglecting my own feelings and needs for too long. It's time to make my own decision and stick with it.  I'm sorry for the other one's pain and confusion, but it's time I worry about myself for once.  I just hope and pray that I can finally be a strong enough person to go through with what I feel is right for myself.  9 years is a long time but any longer is just more time delaying the truth.

I was going to reply to the recent blog titled "Why men cheat" but decided to express my opinion to everyone. My first comment is that that blog was completely one-sided. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion so here's mine. Women cheat too! How can you put the blame on men's hormones when women's hormones are just as bad if not worse at times? I truly believe that no one man or woman would stray away from a relationship that they were 100% happy in. If you cheat, it's because your not happy for some reason. It's obvious that no one likes to admit that maybe, just maybe there really was something wrong in the relationship. It's never right to cheat on someone, but it's also not right to point out men in general for being cheaters. The worst excuse is alcohol or drugs being involved. If you put yourself in those situations than so be it. You're doing it because you want to. A recent experience involving someone very close to me (a female) is part to why I wanted to express my opinion. She cheated, he was devastated, but yet he's being made out to be the bad guy. I'm staying by her because of who she is to me, but she knows how wrong I think she was. My point is that men aren't the only ones who cheat so don't point the finger at just men. One other thing, if you know your spouse has cheated, never take them back. It will never ever be a healthy relationship again.

Listening this morning and hearing everyone call in about Johnny's slip up about depression was hilarious.  I'm one of those people who feel depression is all mentally controlled.  Everyone thinks medication is always the answer.  I know so many people who take medication they don't need.  I've even had my own doctors offer me medication that I refused to take.  I'm not depressed,  I'm busy!  I'm sure people will say the same to me,  that I don't know how it feels.  Guess what?  I do know how it feels to be stressed.  I just happen to know how to handle it.  I'm 27 wih 3 kids.  I've been married for 7 years.  I work full-time and have many many many responsibilities at home.  I'm not rich so I can't pay someone to do everything for me.  Some people in this situation may turn to medication and cry "oh poor me!",  but what's the point?  It gets you nowhere fast.  Life comes at you fast with many challenges.  One day at a time,  that's all you can do.

This goes for men and women, married or just in a relationship. Why is it that so many people think it's ok for them to go out by themselves to clubs, parties etc. but yet when the other person in the relationship tries to do the same it's wrong? I know that some relationships have trust issues, but the ones I'm around don't. It's only fair that if one can do it, the other one should too. I hate the excuse that guys are only out for sex. So are woman! But that doesn't mean that you can't go out and have an innocent night of just having fun.