I guess you can call it cheating, since the relationship wasn't "officially" over. My girlfriend at the time, was staying out late, and she was interested in someone she worked with, because she even tried to invite her on our vacation with us, which I wasn't having. I kicked her out for kissing the girl, but I took her back after talking it out. We'd been together 5 years, we got in an argument and she said she wasn't in love with me any more. Once those words were said, it was like the shades went down and the door closed. I had been working with a girl who was chasing me and usually, when I am with someone, no one else exists. I don't look at them any any other light except as a friend, but I gave in. We ended up together, for 3 years.
I realize now, that some times we get with people for the wrong reasons and then stay with them, because we don't want to be alone, or financial stability or someone for our kids. In the end, your never gonna be happy with anyone unless your happy and secure with yourself. Be with the right person for the right reason and everything else falls into place.
Shawna

As you know I don't believe in cheating and have had it done to me. I can probably give you a million reasons why people cheat, which I think are nothing more than excuses to be what you said, selfish. Maybe I should come on the show and we can give everyone the answers. I got'em!

Love,

Rocky

Hi Johnny,

I must admit that I have cheated before. A few times actually. My first marriage was to person who was very emotionally abusive. A few times it became physical. I was made to feel like dirt almost daily. I was in this relationship for 6 years before I had the courage to leave. I did it for 2 reasons.

The first was because I never felt like I was actually cared for at all. Even sexually, I felt like it was all about him and he was only doing it with me because I was the one who was there. I didn't feel attractive or desirable in any way. I found someone else who made me feel sexy and wanted. It was never an emotional affair. It was strictly sex. It made me feel good about myself...even if it only lasted for a little while. Of course, afterwards I felt worse than before. I never wanted to be that kind of person, but that's what I was becoming.

The second reason was to try and kill any love I once had for him. It hurt more to remain in love with him and have him treat me that way. So, by doing what I did, it made me love him less and less. Every time took away more love until it was finally all gone and I didn't hurt anymore.

I'm not saying those reasons justify what I did, but it should give you a different insight into why people cheat.

Sincerely,
Mariah :)

John, I have been cheated on by my husband. When I found out he begged forgivness and swore it would never happen again, so I forgave him and let him stay. He continued to cheat with the same person for the next month. I had stopped by his work one evening and guess who was there. He told me that he cheated because he thought I was cheating on him. (cop-out and excuse) he knew I would never do that. But...I guess since we have never gotten our divorce finalized, I have now cheated on him. I was in a relationship with a wonderful man for about a year and that is over now also, just recently. (not because anyone cheated, just wasn't meant to be) So I guess since biblically I am still married, then yes I have cheated.

Why are you sad, don't tell me you are going thru this right now with someone. I hope not. If so, I am in the same pain you are in, because I am very broken hearted over my relationship ending last month. But hey, life goes on, right? Hope you're feeling better soon.

Love you guys,
CindyK